Why Facing Your Fears Will Help Create Tremendous Success

fear2From birth, we are all faced by fear. This fear can be crippling and is the main reason why many people are still stuck in their comfort zones-afraid to fail. For many, the mere feeling of stepping outside their comfort zones is too much to bear. The fear of failure is greater in them compared to their desire for success.

Maybe you are one of those constantly engulfed by fear. Sincerely speaking, this is a great offence. Real success comes when you learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Master the skill of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable and you have won half of the battle of life. Here are 5 steps of facing your fears in order to realize tremendous success.

  1. Just Do it

It is true that we are all scared at one point in our lives. Life is a fight or flight endeavor. Majority of people choose to run away and stay in their safe comfort zones. The ultra-successful instead choose to keep moving forward despite the presence of the feeling of fear.Indeed, most of historic moments have been recorded by men, women and children whose hearts were pounding, palms sweating and adrenaline pumping but they chose to do it anyway.

It is better to fail at something big than seldom try. The next time you want to do something- and fear creeps, just remind yourself that most of great people faced the same but they made a decision to do it anyway.

“He who is not every day conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.”-Ralph Walde Emerson.

2. Classify Your Fear

Identifying the type of fear killing you is the first step towards fighting and conquering it. Often times, we are faced by the fear of the future, the fear of rejection and the fear of the unknown. All these three types of fears can be broadly classified into rational or irrational fears.

If you are afraid of leaving your job and instead investing your savings into living on a desert island-having no future income, surrounded by panthers and pit vipers and…of course, no survival skills; then you can classify that under rational fears. On the other hand, if you are only scared of balloons, you can categorize that fear under irrational fears. It is easy to deal with irrational fears compared to rational fears. Nevertheless, facing all these types of fears is guided by great desire in the beauty of conquering them.

After categorizing your fears as either rational or irrational, get your list of irrational fears and mark them off one by one till the whole list is complete. Secondly, think through your rational fears and the ones that make sense to do go right ahead and do them. Get ticking to gain your momentum and soon, you will have faced all your fears.


3. Weigh Up Your Priorities

Sometimes facing your fears will not be of any help if you do not weigh up the options available to you. It is wise to only face fears that are most definitely going to yield excellent results to your life.

4. Have Faith

The only way to face your fears is to believe in the supremacy of God and your inadequacy as man. This is the basic fundamental of life. Without believing this, you are merely existing-not living. Having faith in God plucks off fear from our hearts and mind- promising us that our future is already insured for by God. This gives us the confidence to face life fearlessly because even if we fail, the powerful God will restore us.

5. Visualize Yourself Conquering

Nick Minaj and Rihanna put their melodious vocals to good use by singing; “I was born to win, to fly, to conquer , to rise and to survive.” One great way to overcome fear is through visualizing yourself conquering it. Picture yourself succeeding before even getting down to do it. This is a secret held close to the hearts of many successful people. The next time you are overcome with fear, take five minutes with your eyes closed and imagine yourself completing the task at hand. After the five minutes, open your eyes and just start doing it. This is the only way to face your fears-Taking action with the picture of success permanently embedded at the back of your mind.

“The brave man is not he who does feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”- Nelson Mandela

Final Takeaway

Life becomes scary at times, but it is wise to match up and get yourself back on the track. Face fear today even if it is a small one. This will help you gain momentum in this journey of life.

Thank you for reading my article. Which types of fears do you face? Share with me in the comment box below.


How to Stop Chasing the Wrong Dreams

FOLLOWTHEMFrom a tender age,other people dream for us. Leading this bandwagon are our well-meaning parents calling out our future potential. Then teachers, pastors, coaches and others in authority. All these people cast their hopes for us. It becomes difficult to clearly tell the difference between others dreams for us and our own dreams. Their dreams become ours.

To see our dreams come true, they must come from within. They must be authentically from you and no one else. If by any chance we are able to achieve others’ dreams, there is still an emptiness within because it is not our true dream but a counterfeit. Others have decided and even predicted a future for us. This is genuinely a waste of years of our life.

When you are chasing somebody else’s dream disguised as your own, you do not have time to do self-searching to discover your own dream. It becomes a detour from the life you truly desire. Often times, we have a small feeling from within that it’s not our true dream but we keep pushing on in the same direction. We have been mislead and don’t fully understand for how long.

If you believe that you may have been chasing the wrong dream, follow the four steps below to discover your true dream.

  1. Be Alone

You must create time to be alone with yourself. Turn all external voices except the one that is internal. In this busy, noisy and counterproductive society, we must be focused and objective to make this happen.Technology is an inevitable and constant destruction. The noise makes it hard for you to clearly visualize your talents, abilities and passion. A lone time will eliminate all destruction and help you to re-evaluate and refocus your mind on your core values.

“We all have choices, we can make a living or we can design a life.”-Jim Rohn

2. Write Down

Putting down your dreams on paper is a necessity. A written dream constantly reminds of what is non-negotiable. Writing helps us to differentiate between the things we can adjust or change and those that we cannot change no matter what. Writing also serves as a hub for hope during times of discouragement. We will definitely get discouraged along the journey of life. To keep us going, we need to refill our hope by constantly reminding ourselves why we started the journey. We are only reminded by looking back to our written dreams. Writing is a compass to bring us back to where we ran out of motivation.


3. Plan and Act

After writing down your dreams, plan how to carry out your mission. Writing your dreams without putting down a plan is useless. Keep your plan simple and effortlessly executable. Break your dream into manageable chunks and be consistent to accomplish each day’s target.

4. Get Feedback

Feedback is a vital step to any progress in life. However,be careful to get feedback from a trusted source. Furthermore, avoid looking out for feedback early in the process of chasing your dreams. Often times,we are over-excited about our dreams and openly share them with any random Tom, Dick and Harry. The result is being discouraged before we strongly anchor the roots of our dreams. Get feedback from people who have been where you want to go. Find out what it took them to accomplish their dreams. This will adequately prepare your for the inevitable challenges along the journey.

“This one step-choosing a goal and sticking to it changes everything.”-Scott Reed

Final Verdict

As you plan, realign and re-calibrate your future, you will find a new passion. The road is long with many bends but this fight is worth every penny. Stay true to your inner cry. Remember, you lie loudest when you lie to yourself. Skill can be learned, but the inner passion is what you want to ignite. Have a blessed journey.